Commitment means that you will not abandon your lover when your net benefit is low or negative. Commitment levels vary from person to person. Some people can take more pain and suffering than others.

Commitment is the pillar for strong love, but excess of it could actually harm your relationship. The researchers have found that people who put too much emotional load on their rapport are prone to depression and anxiety.

Simply stated, you may have to step out of your stereotype, and do things that aren't what you are used to doing in the past. Commitment implies bonding in such a way that one assure to keep the fires of love ablaze until further notice. It also means shutting one’s heart to the leeway of loving another who might even be more attractive, even more lovable. Not easy, Huh?


This is why solid commitments are not at all as familiar as we are led to judge. In fact, more often than not, I think that the promise two lovers make are not equivalent. What I mean is that the commitment of one might be a whole lot more or a whole lot less than the partner’s.

A lover gets this dipping emotion when there is a sense that one is more loyal than the other. When one is giving a lot more than one is being paid. When one’s love is a lot more solid than the squeaky love of the spouse. When a couple consider powerfully that their promise to each other is rock solid, there is a deep sense of safety, a feeling that it’s OK to give all since the gift of yourself is safe in the hands of the one loved dearly.